Making a list, checking it twice…

Now that I am fully engaged in the  “No Contact” phase of a very volatile and unhealthy relationship with a narcissist  I’ve been trying my best not to constantly focus on the negative feelings that are so typically associated in ending a relationship with a narcissistic person.  This is a time when I find myself constantly questioning my decisions and asking “why” quite a bit.  I’ve been doing a lot of research on this topic and one thing that seems constant in what I’ve been reading is that I should take this time and begin to focus on what I want.  So I’ve decided to make a list, what could be easier?

Well…it was actually It was harder than I thought.  The ideas were not free flowing like I had expected.  I actually had to do some work for this! So I started out with things like, wanting to take a cooking class (I love to cook and bake),  reading more books for leisure and working on personal projects that I wanted to (like this blog).  As I continued to write, my ideas started to morph from things I wanted to do to things I wanted to improve and change.  I want to be able to make better choices for myself,  I want to make better relationship decisions, I want to have more faith and trust in myself.   Some of these things on my list will be easy  and some will take some time and effort.  It’s time and effort that is well worth spending if you ask me.  Do you ever take any time to reflect on the things you want?  If so I’d love to hear what your “list items” are in the comments section.


If you are interested in checking out some of the articles that have helped me gain some insight on breaking free of a narcissistic relationship here are a few listed below.